Sex. Sex. Sex. It seems that nowadays sex is everywhere. Life has become a hectic race and sex is a major part of that race. To answer “How much sex is too much” you have to look at the person asking the question. Is it a teenager being pressured by their peers? A college kid getting points for “hookups”? A young married couple consummating their marriage every night? An older couple with a house full of kids and a crippling mortgage? Or and elderly couple barely able to communicate their passionate needs to one another because of age stereotypes? These are all factors that come into play. Whether we like it or not society helps to dictate the stereotype of “too much sex” while it still drowns our senses with sex images in the media.

The truth about sex is that it sells and it sells everything. Sex is an everyday image in most people’s life whether it’s coming from a cologne commercial, a commercial for a new T.V. show, or a newspaper ad talking about appeal and finding your true love. We are so trained as a society to see sex as a necessity of everyday life that it is hard to gauge how much sex is too much. In the end it comes down to a personal preference. It is a question of whether your libido matches up with your partner’s, whether you’re looking for a relationship or just casual sex, and how having sex makes you feel as a person.

In a relationship sex should never just be a fix all. It is not a magical bandage that patches up a rough night of arguing, it merely pushes the angry words and hate off to the side until after the climax. A lot of people in relationships use sex to hide the problems underlying the arguments and sadness. A relationship includes sex with passion and desire. Instead of just sex this is more like “making love” and sharing your body and soul with your partner. If you’re just having sex for the fun of it then it truly depends on how this lifestyle affects how you feel as a person. Many young people get into a funk in life from only viewing themselves as how desirable they are to their “hookups”. This sort of disconnected sexual lifestyle can lead to a lower self-esteem in some people because they feel that they are only valued as a sexual object that can be used and tossed off to the side. In this situation the amount of sex a person has is truly a question of how they view themselves while having sex and whether they are comfortable with who they are and the reasons they are having sex.

Ultimately, sex is a preference. How often you have sex depends on your body and how comfortable you feel in sharing it with someone else. There is no such thing as too much sex as long as you are aware of how it affects both your mind and your body.