By Maggie
First we must take a look at the commonly accepted definition of pornography or “porn”. According to the dictionary, pornography consists of “obscene writings, drawings, photographs, or the like, esp. those having little or no artistic merit” And goes on to state that this includes “writings, pictures, films, etc, designed to stimulate sexual excitement”. (
link) Much can be taken from two of the phrases found there.
“Having little or no artistic merit”. History has provided us with beautiful statues and paintings of nude or barely dressed women. Most females do not have a problem with their men admiring these pieces of art. They are tasteful and not done in a manner that degrades women or focuses completely on their sexuality. Pornography, on the other hand, emphasizes the female body parts that pertain to sex and provide pleasure to men. Faces, hairstyles and nice legs seldom come into play. The sole focus is sexual. Many women find this offensive because they do not like men ignoring the aspects that have to do with “love”, and instead are focusing on simple lust.
“Designed to stimulate sexual excitement”. Looking at, admiring, lusting for or becoming sexually aroused over a woman other than your mate is hurtful and offensive. Most women have insecurities and the last thing they want is to feel as if they are being compared to the liposuctioned, breast enhanced, shaved, oiled and airbrushed women that pose for porn. This can make the female feel inferior and inadequate when it comes to pleasing her man.
As women, we want to be the only one that our partner desires and finds sexually attractive. This is a bit unreasonable, of course. Being in a committed relationship does not make one blind to others beauty. Most women have a bit more discretion than men. Sure we might admire a healthy male specimen on TV, in the movies or at work. But we generally don’t deliberately go searching for graphic, detailed pictures of a naked man. (there are exceptions, of course) Men, on the other hand, often fail to consider their partner’s feelings and buy the magazine, search for sites on the internet and watch porn.
The bottom line is, women do not like their men looking at pornography because it is disrespectful to them, makes them feel jealous and/or inferior and “feels” as if he is cheating. We have been brought up to believe that our bodies and sexuality are to be shared with only one other person. When the man steps outside of boundaries it creates turmoil.
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